Fluxx Sex Party || Tucson, AZ
This is a very personal post because this is the first sex party that we ever went to as a couple. We were living in Arizona and this was around the first year of our relationship. At the time, we each had varying degrees of interest and experience in the lifestyle, histories of casual sex, and comfort in the idea of polyamory. We’d had many conversations about the lifestyle and were actively and ferociously having a lot of sexy play together at home and secretly in public places (never got caught) and we arrived at a place where we were exploring the idea of, but not quite taking action in, the swinger’s lifestyle.
(Being our first sex party and over a decade prior to this post, we don’t have quality photos or camera posing experience, so you’ll excuse the 2010s random pics from our personal archive. PPS: this first pic is probably what I wore to this party)
While out with a platonic group one night, we met a friend-of-a-friend who was a very alternative free spirit and after connecting with her, she invited us (just the two of us out of the group) to a sex party. She actually handed us a pamphlet that she had on her person with the details. In the moment I was intrigued and excited that we were being singled out as the sexy cool couple, but in all honesty I’m not sure I exactly understood what I was being invited to. I think Dax knew exactly what we were being invited to and I can still picture the huge smile on his face as he nodded his head at her invitation. We didn’t know exactly what to wear, so we opted for typical sexy lingerie and casual evening attire (this was a western desert city remember). It wasn’t until we actually read the pamphlet that we realized it was an LGBTP+ sex party, but all were welcome.
As the day approached, we were both getting more and more excited. I’m a total party girl and was anticipating the frivolity of meeting new people, but still completely naive about the sex play part. Dax was solely focused and getting hard about this being a sex party and less interested in the fête aspect. As we drove up that night, it took us several minutes to find the location because it was so hidden. We parked and awkwardly walked up to an abandoned building in an alley, to be greeted by the friendliest coterie of jovial colorful people (literally, the most eye-popping glittery outfits I’d ever seen at the time) to Fluxx Productions.
They did an amazing job decorating the space, building out private rooms and sexy stations, plus they had a huge dance floor with lights and a DJ. As we slowly meandered our way into the main area, I’m sure we looked like complete deers in headlights. It was both exhilarating and overwhelming. People were in all states of dress (and undress). Bold glowing costumes, seductive lingerie, and even some tearing up the dance floor in their birthday suits. One of the women who enviously caught my eye was a Madame who was on the stage in a push-up bra, pencil skirt, stilettos, and brandishing a whip as she daintily rolled her right wrist in circles to slap it against her left palm while she waited for her next Sub.
After some dancing and loosening up a little, we wandered to the stations. There was a candle wax stations which we tried but I was too much of a wimp from the hot sting so that didn’t last very long. We then found a private room made of four walls of curtains with a chaise lounge and a tv playing porn. As this was our first sex club ever, we eased into it with some private sexy time with porn and people walking past in a dark space. It felt spicy and forbidden which was a complete turn-on as we made out and groped each other in this fabulous environment.
After our private play, we continued to walk around and observe other couples and groups playing at stations with toys, fucking, and genuinely letting go. They all looked so happy and free and it was the most jovial first experience at a sex club. The fact that we were a straight couple invited to an LGBTQ+ event, meant that everyone was respectful and we had some space to explore and learn the sex party culture without feeling pressure from other straight couples to dive right into swapping.
Overall, an incredibly exciting and warm group of people who put on an amazing party. I’m happy to see that they’re still around all these years later and appreciate that they made my first sex party experience a memorable one. Memorable enough that we went again the next month and had an equally liberating and dazzling time.
